I haven’t given much attention to the study of personality types, although I remember being very interested in Carl Jung’s archetypes. The following is an excerpt from the explanation that came with my Enneagram results. I took the short, free test last week and came out a 9. I didn’t think it was accurate, so I did the 144 question, “real” test giving it more attention this evening, and yep, I’m a 9. The type name is Peacemaker. My second place type was a tie between Enthusiast and Achiever. However, here’s the growth recommendation for 9’s, which I wish I’d understood about 40 years ago.
Growing Nines must also remember that they will never have union with anyone else unless and until they have union with themselves. If they are accommodating to a fault, they will eventually lose the other person because they have never possessed themselves. When they learn that self-assertion is not an aggressive act but a positive thing, Nines are in a position to truly bring peace and harmony to everyone in their environment.
© 2016 The Enneagram Institute
Even though I haven’t studied much popular psychology, I am into personal growth this year and have been doing and journaling self reflection, Kriya yoga study, and life observation. So, self-assertion is a good thing, huh? I like it when I see my friends do it gracefully. I cringe when people assert themselves rudely without thought. But it is true that I am all too accommodating. Have been, and tend to be.
Just the idea! Union with myself, the peace of at-oneness within my own mind and person is fascinating. And it is a “message” or a theme that has threaded through this year of seeking dharmic living, so far. And, to be truthful, which writers are supposed to be, it comes as a surprise to me that such a thing is considered ordinary and possible by some, many or most? I guess it has been off my belief radar.
To be fair to my slightly muffled ego, I have felt more aligned and in union with my self – and exhibited some self-assertiveness recently when I have declined things to do, meetings to go to, for example, requests that I ordinarily would have complied with. “That’s won’t work for me,” is an under-used mantra, but lately I’ve been experiencing its value. And I am thinking of some other opportunities in the near future to put it into practice again…like a muscle that needs to be developed.
Union with myself. I am not even sure what that will really look like. How will I know it? This connection with being “self-assertive” in the Enneagram write-up is something to try out and see what I learn. Experiment.
Being self-possessed. At one. Not compromised. Hmm…while it sounds like a tall order, it also feels worth the while.